Sunflower Mom on a Mission

Kim is the official "Spokesmom" for Just For Me(tm) Texture Softener(tm), the brand new breakthrough in hair care for girls of mixed heritage! Her daughter, is featured on the hair care system package, and you may have even seen her on Barney! Kim's blog will contain her thoughts on being a mom in a multi-ethnic family, health and beauty and self-image and self esteem. And for fun, she will interact with other moms who have "hair care chronicles and horror stories."

Tuesday, December 19, 2006

"Nappy Hair??"

Hello everyone!!

Well, it is pretty late so I am going to make this short and sweet! I just thought this was kind of ironic. My daughter was shooting a movie this weekend and she plays a character named Camilla. Well, she lives with her dad (who is single). So, needless to say, her character isn't too well taken care of by her father. She pretty much dresses herself as well as doing her own hair.

So, here comes the ironic part...The producer of the movie said that her hair was too perfect. He had the hair dresser "nap it up"!! Her hair was all over the place!! It's funny, because we work so hard to try and get it looking good and he wants it nappy. My daughter about died!! She didn't like what they did...but of coarse, it was just for the movie so she didn't worry about it too much. The producer even made the comment that when they shoot her morning scene, he wants it even nappier!!!

Every time she passed by him, he kept on fluffing her hair up on the top and making it really wild! HE LOVED IT!!! She did not!!! As soon as we wrapped for the day, she wanted me to put her hair up immediately!!

It seems that no matter where we go or what we are is all about the hair!

I will write more later...just wanted to share this. I thought it was fitting!

Until Next Time,
"Sunflower Mom"


At 11:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You have got to be kidding! This is one of the most racist things I have ever seen! Am I to believe that some white woman is about to save all multi-racial girls and their parents from some horrific future that revolves around hair?! That is dramatic bullshit! You should be ashamed for trying to make your daughter and other multi-racial girls/women with curly hair (like myself) feel like something is wrong with their hair and that it is horrible to deal with.

At 3:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just discovered this product last night while browsing through a magazine I picked up. My daughter is mixed (Jamaican and American. Every day she has two pigtail braids otherwise it ends up as a big fuzz ball all tangled up. Many days when she comes home from school she will say, "Mommy, why can't I have down hair like my friends?" Poor thing. She has beautiful curly hair, but it only looks beautiful when it is soaking wet. Anyways, I'm excited to try this product and hope it will help with Abby's hair. I just love this blog - so much information for multi-racial families. Andrea E. Tampa, FL

At 3:49 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello Sunflower Mom.

I am a mother of three children,Theresa 5, Christian 3, and Kyra 9 months. I am have been reading about the JFM texturizer and I am worried that this will affect the natural textur of Theresa's hair. She has a very curly hair but when I comb it it breaks at the ends and i don't want to cause anymore damage. We live in North Dakota where the air is ver cold and dry and its not a lot of African Americans or Multiracial product or beauticians that now how to handle My family's hair. My son's hair is kinky at the roots and bone straight at the ends he won't let me touch it! What should I do? My hair is even breaking to the point that I wear wigs. Any advice is welcome. Please post i will check and even get a bloggers account if needed. Thank you

At 8:07 AM, Blogger Kim said...


I hope the product works for you! I think you will be very pleased with the results! Make sure that you follow the directions for her hair type!

Please let me know how it worked for you and your daughter.

Just to let you know, I also use the proline conditioner for men on my daughter's hair as well just to give it a little more weight. I apply it after she gets out of the tub and after "easily" combing through her hair (because of the texture softener!!) :)

I absolutely love JFM and the proline products!!


PS. Again, let me know how it works for you!!

"Sunflower Mom"

At 9:42 AM, Blogger Just Sarah said...

I wanted to respond to the comment about this being racist drama.
I think that is a very extreme opinion. This product and the website supporting it is simply a tool to make parents' and childrens' lives a little easier. I treat my mixed daughter and her hair with the same philosophy that my own mother treated me and my hair...until she is old enough to maintain and care for her hair on her own, I will make the decisions about it. For me as a child that meant that my mother kept my hair shorter than I liked at the time simply to be practical. We were able to avoid the daily arguments over how to do my hair.

With my own daughter, I am not trying to change or ignore the fact that she has curly hair. I am simply trying to make it easier on her and me when it comes to day to day maintenence. I love my daughter's hair and she does, too.

At 6:37 PM, Blogger Kim said...

Just Sarah,

Thank you for your support!! I appreciate it! :)

"Sunflower Mom"

At 9:54 PM, Anonymous Sabrina said...

I guess only people you agree with can post comments?

At 10:31 AM, Anonymous The Moderator said...

Actually, no. We have no problem publishing opposing views as long as they don't take on a truly negative tone. We also don't allow the promotion of other products on the site. So if you can disagree agreeably, I think we can promote that dialogue. Cheers!

The Moderator

At 5:58 AM, Blogger Monica said...

IN all honesty...
I had to agree with where the mom was going on the racist issue. (the passion, not the language) Personally as a black woman I am quite offended that anyone could complain about beautiful black hair, yet I appreciate the product for being here. (not quite a perm that damages hair) My husband is my black brother, and 2 of our daughters look mixed for whatever reason. (wish I had this product for the 1st one - reg. perms messed her up) I think I rip at their hair as much as my littlest chocolate bunny. I have been using JFM products for years & am proud to say I am excited to try this one too, but not because you all want to promote this to mixed races. I am using it because JFM cares for childrens hair, at least it has for my 4 different shades of black. If I find the picture posting area I will have before & after shots.

At 5:10 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am an African American woman with a white husband and a multi-racial girls. I have an 8 year old, 11 year old and 16 year old. I don't think the comments from Sunflower mom were racist at all. I think it's great that she's sharing her experience with those of us that are having a hard time finding products for our children. My 16 year old had a lot of her hair fall out after a hairdresser relaxed her hair using what they said was the most mild per they could give her. It took about 2 years for her hair to grow back and be normal again. I vowed to never put those harsh chemicals in their hair again. My daughter's hair is not like mine at all or any hair that I have ever encountered in my entire life. My daughter's hair looks a lot like the little girl in the photo when it's wet. When it dries it becomes very "puffy." The differece seems to be that multi-racial hair is more fine, a bit thinner, and softer but they seem to have a lot of it. This causes the hair to tangle much worse and once you have those tangles, they are something to reckon with. You could comb their hair in one spot, start on another spot, and when you go back, lo and behold, the first spot is already tangled. Their hair is not as course and it's lighter, so it doesn't lay down even with moisturizer. The products in the ethnic section are much too heavy for their hair. It makes it look like too greasy. White products are not enough. There isn't enough moisture. Believe me, I have spent thousands of dollars on hair products to try them a couple of times and donate them to the local shelter. If you haven't experienced this kind of hair you wouldn't understand. I can't wait to try this product. I went out and bought a box last night. I did not take her original post as being racist or that she was saying that there was something wrong with curly hair. My sister in laws of Irish decent have very curly hair as well. My husband's father (pure Irish) had a small afro. My teenage daughter loves the fact she can wear her hair natural (curly) and straighten it depending on her mood. White women with straight hair have to have perms to do what she can do naturally. She actually prefers having curly hair because it's easier to straighten curly hair then to curl straight hair. But the other blogger is right when she says that our children should be able to wear their hair down instead of in braids all of the time. Braids are our only option since their hair tangles so easily. If they leave their hair down, in 5 minutes, it is one big ball of tangles and I'm not exaggerating. It literally is horrible to deal with. Again, if you have not experienced this type of hair, you can't comment on it. I think my teenager will be the first to try this product. I am glad, though, that this site has commented on how this isn't only for children or children of a mixed race.
Did anyone see the Oprah show a couple of weeks ago about the 15 year old girl who has her own product line? I haven't had to time to investigate that but she came up with her own natural products because her hair fell out after a perm. Just curious....

At 4:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with monica about the picture posting area!! Cause I really would like to try this product on my daughter, but I'm not sure for who it's really targeted for! I mean is it only for mixed little girls with already soft hair texture,but wants there hair less frizzy an more defined curls? Or can a African American girl with an afro put this texturize on, an also see results? Obivisously not like the mixed child, but something more mangeable. Cause no where in the box does it say it's "ONLY" for mixed children, but I feel that the company is promoting it only for them. I mean I HIGHLY suggest that there's a picture forum section. Like I always tell people seeing one thing and reading one thing is not the same. Cause seeing only one person all the time doesn't really justified whether or not the product works. Esspecailly if it's designed for one group of people state it. Thanks for answering my questions.


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